Meeting Elizabeth Gilbert

A few years ago I read Eat, Pray, Love, and I pretty much wanted that book to become my life. Okay, I still do. The idea that a woman could put her life on hold and travel around the world pursuing her interests is fascinating. So, when I heard that Elizabeth Gilbert was speaking at a library event, I knew I had to go to it. What pearls of wisdom would she drop? What inspiring things would she say? What would she wear?

Last week, I went with my mom and cousin to an auditorium filled with women and their anticipation. After a late start and an introduction from two different speakers, Elizabeth Gilbert was on stage. Wearing a dark cardigan, floral dress, and knee-high black boots, the woman on stage was nothing how I imagined her. I spent my teens living in a hippie town, so in my mind, if you like to travel and do yoga, you dress like a backpacker on a six month tour of Asia. Elizabeth Gilbert is much too stylish for that.

As she talked, she focused on something her mother had told her when she was growing up, “Done is better than good.” This goes against almost everything my perfectionist heart secretly craves. What? I shouldn’t try to be the absolute best at whatever my fingers touch? I can check things of the list without becoming a master of the task? The idea was shocking but, also, something that filled me with immense relief. Again and again, she came back to this point that it’s okay to finish something and move on, reminding people that if you wait for perfection you will be waiting forever.

And then, she told this wonderful story about a young man who moved to Paris to be an artist, and how he met a group of friendly aristocrats who invited him to a costume ball where some of the heads of Europe would be in attendance. The young man worked and worked to make his costume the best and most impressive costume anyone would have ever seen. When he arrived at the ball, he found himself at the top of a staircase waiting for his name to be announced, and it was then that he realized that he had made a mistake. It wasn’t just a costume ball but a themed costume ball. The theme was a Medieval court (which sounds fabulous, by the way), and he was dressed as a very realistic lobster.

Friends, being the lobster at a Medieval ball is essentially the story of my life.

The young man, however, decided to own his choice of costume. He liked it and had worked hard on it, and the only thing that had changed was the realization that he had made a mistake in translation. There was nothing he could do about that now. So, he went down the stairs, and when the people gathered around him to find out why he was dressed like that, he bowed and said, “I am the court lobster”. He spent the rest of the evening dancing with a Queen.

I love this story so much. No matter how hard you try, you will never be perfect. That’s life. Things happen. But, you can own the decisions you make. You can bow and say, “I am a silly American in a lobster costume, but this is an amazing lobster costume!” You can dance the night away with royalty, and the story can end with it just being a great night. There doesn’t need to be a fairy tale ending with a wedding and money falling from the heavens. I wish more stories ended like the young man with his lobster costume.

Eventually Elizabeth Gilbert finished speaking, and women raced down the aisle to ask her questions. Then, there was a rather long line to wait in for book signing, but the line moved quickly, and soon I was face to face with the author. I presented my copy of Eat, Pray, Love, which was opened to the desired page with a sticky note bearing my name. We said hello. She signed my book. She smiled and told me to have a good night. And, I did.

book signing

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The London Sessions

Mary J. Blige is mixing up her special blend of hip-hop and soul with her new album, The London Sessions. Collaborating with some of this decade’s most celebrated UK musical talent – including Disclosure, Eg White, Emile Sandé, Jimmy Napes, Naughty Boy, SAM ROMANS and Sam Smith – Mary J. Blige creates music that feels like therapy for the soul.

Two of my favorite songs open the album. From the moment I heard “Therapy”, I fell in love with the moody lyrics, which seem tailor made for me during this gloomy time of year. “Doubt” is the anecdote to the blues that demand I play “Therapy” on repeat. Poignant but inspiring, “Doubt” is the song you play when you get out of bed and face another day.

Even with eight multi-platinum albums and nine Grammy Awards to her name, Mary J. Blige continues to evolve as an artist, pushing the boundaries of music.

”The London Sessions is, number one, the bravest thing, and number two, just so honest,” says Smith, who co-wrote lead single, “Therapy,” with Mary J. Blige and Eg White. Disclosure adds, “It’s the reason that people like Mary are so successful – they’re just not afraid to change what they do completely.”

The dozen songs that make up her new album add a beautiful new layer to an already impressive oeuvre. Just in time for Christmas, The London Sessions will be released by Capitol Records December 2nd.

 Pre-order The London Sessions on iTunes and Amazon.

I participated in the Mary J Blige The London Sessions album review program as a member of One2One Network. I was provided a free album to review but all opinions are my own.

Geeky Gift Guide

It’s hard to believe that holiday gift guides are already popping up. With Thanksgiving next week, the Christmas shopping frenzy is just around the corner. My brain is whirling with gift ideas for family and friends. There are so many fun options! Today’s gift guide is dedicated to geeks. Think Geek, Hot Topic, and even Modcloth are great stores to shop when looking for quirky presents. From a cheese slicer that looks like a camera to heated narwhal slippers, this list is full of surprises.

gift ideas for nerds

When do you start shopping for gifts?

What’s In My Bag?

Today is a snowy, gray day. It’s the type of day that calls for endless cups of hot chocolate or comforting tea. In other words, it is the perfect day for hiding underneath the covers.

kitty in winter

While I haven’t quite recovered from last year’s harsh winter, it only seems natural that we would get snow early this year since the holiday season seems to have arrived early, too. Since I’m long overdue for a vlog post, I decided that today was a good day to do one of my favorite YouTube tags: What’s In My Bag? It’s always interesting to see what people keep in their bags and is a fun way to discover cute new notebooks, wallets, key chains, etc.

Currently, I am using the Rebecca Minkoff Dexter Bucket Bag (c/o Shopbop), but I think this style is no longer available. I have a few different styles of Rebecca Minkoff bags, and so far, I am really happy with them. The leather is soft but durable, and with their mix of leather, zippers, and hardware, the bags feel very downtown chic.

Inside my bag, you will find the usually suspects: wallet, pens, and tissues. To find out what else I carry, you’ll just have to watch the video.

What’s in your bag?

In the Mood for Fall

There is a chill in the air, and snowflakes are making their appearance. Soon, a trip outdoors will require one to dress like the Michelin Man, but for now, a few layers will suffice. I adore mixing patterns and am constantly inspired by the cute pattern play featured on Respect the Shoes. Fall is the perfect time for mixing patterns since each layer gives you the excuse to add a new print.

fall outfit ideas

Lately, I find myself obsessing over stripes and plaids, and while my current spending focus is on experiences and not things, my wardrobe is begging me to add a few new pieces. I shall resist for now, but come Black Friday, all bets are off.

5 Ways to do Good This Holiday Season

giving and gratittude

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, today seems like a good day to talk about doing good things.

Give a Shoebox

In November, Operation Christmas Child collects shoeboxes filled with toys and supplies for children around the world. From dolls and yo-yos to pencils and calculators, Operation Christmas Child is a wonderful way to help a child in need. If you don’t have time to fill a shoebox this year, you can build one online.

Support Our Troops

Tomorrow is Veterans Day, and while the weekend sales are nice, shopping at the mall does not support our troops. Why not make a donation instead? The USO offers a range of programs that support deployed, wounded, and transitioning servicemen and women. Also, they put together goody bags for trainees who get to go home for Christmas, and I can’t tell you how meaningful that is. For other ways to support our troops, check out Charity Navigator.

Build a School

Okay, you might not have the money to do it all by yourself, but that is where Pencils of Promise comes in. I first heard about this for-purpose organization on MarieTV. If you haven’t seen this episode, you must watch it. I’ll wait… That was inspiring, wasn’t it? So is Adam Braun’s book, The Promise of a Pencil: How an Ordinary Person Can Create Extraordinary Change. I recently finished reading it and am still in awe of the passion and commitment he has shown to educating children around the world. So far, Pencils of Promise has built 251 schools and served 29, 907 students.

Donate Your Party Dress

By providing free dresses and accessories, The Princess Project plays fairy godmother to California teens who cannot afford these prom expenses. You can donate gently used dresses and accessories at a community drive or mail a dress to Weddington Way and receive a store voucher.

Cut Your Hair

If you are thinking about getting a shorter hairdo, now is the perfect time to consider donating your hair to Locks of Love, which gives hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children who suffer from long-term, medical hair loss. Their hair donation guidelines are a good place to start.

For more ways to give back, check out last year’s list!

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Floral Friday: Native Blooms

floral bloggers

I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone.

You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.

-Oscar Wilde

Erica from Cat Eyes and Skinny Jeans posted this quote on Instagram not long ago, and it has stuck with me ever since I saw it. Even though I normally posted only three or four times a week, cutting back to two posts has left me with time to do other things. It feels awkward to not always be thinking about my next post. It seems strange not to spend every spare hour of my life on the Internet. But, I need room to breathe, experiment, and try new things. Lately, these new things have included going to a Halloween dance party and attending the circus. I kind of feel bad for neglecting my blog, and I’m hardly on Twitter anymore, but I don’t feel as guilty about this as I thought I would. Am I embracing the Slow Blogging Movement? I don’t know, but I like where this is going.

Today’s post is supposed to be about native flowers. I live in a subdivision. There is nothing native here. However, the last month has been full of mums. Chrysanthemums have popped up in neighbors’ yards and the grocery store, providing a cheerful splash of color on cloudy, gray days. These beauties are currently blooming outside by the garage door. They are actually a dark purple, but I couldn’t resist playing around with some filters.

Pom pom flowers call for a pom pom hat, and this cutie looks as snugly as a favorite sweater.

winter hat

Old Navy Womens Sweater Knit Pom Pom Hats

Floral Fridays is a monthly photography project with different themes each month. This series is about fun and taking time out to smell the flowers. To play along, please email Trishie (trishie@underlockandkeyblog.com) for next month’s theme.

If you are looking for another holiday swap, be sure to take a look at

Cat Eyes & Skinny Jeans’ The Great Holiday Blog Swap!

November Wish List

holiday shopping

The holiday spirit has hit me early. Already, I am listening to Christmas music, and in a few days, I hope to start putting out decorations. Since I’m in the mood for Christmas, it only makes sense to do a holiday themed wish list. This tulle skirt from ASOS begs to be worn to the Nutcracker, and a polar bear sweater is a cute alternative to the ugly Christmas sweater.

Shop the Look!

 

To get into the Christmas spirit, visit Chaotic Goddess Swaps and sign up for the 12 Days of Christmas Swap. Bloggers will send 12 wrapped gifts to their swap partners as a fun way to count down to Christmas. Sign ups end November 10, 2014.

What are you wishing for this month?

Halloween In Your Closet: Mer-Maid

For some reason, I have found blogging to be an uphill battle this year. I am not sure why because I still enjoy blogging and the community I have found through it. However, blogging is no longer the priority it once was. I need to step back a bit from my virtual life so that I can pay attention to my actual one. So, my posting may be irregular with one post one week and several the next. I have, also, fallen behind on commenting, and this frustrates me the most because I enjoy reading your blogs. I shall do my best to catch up. Things may be a little quiet around here while I try to find a more comfortable schedule.

Now back to your regularly scheduled programming…

Halloween is Friday, and if you haven’t decided on a costume, it’s time to get started. When it comes to last minute costuming, there is no better place to start than your closet.

Mer-Maid Costume

easy halloween costume

I love a play on words. I admit I find them punny, and my corny wit soon led me to attempt to combine two classic Halloween costumes – the maid and the mermaid. The costume is simple enough. A simple black dress and a white apron are enough to channel the maid. This dress I got from Target a few years ago, and the apron is just a piece of white fabric I folded over and belted around my waist. To keep with the fishy theme, I layered black fishnet tights over seafoam green tights.

Mer-Maid Makeup

Halloween mermaid

What really makes this costume is the makeup. I was inspired by this fish makeup post. I used nylon hexagon netting to create the scales by placing a scrap of netting on my face, covering the swatch with a creamy concealer, and brushing on bright eyeshadow. When you lift the netting off, you are left with a scale-like pattern. The makeup was more vibrant in person, and I had to resort to awkward closeups in order for the scales to show up on camera.

Halloween costume ideas

Do you have any plans for Halloween?