This one’s for the dreamers

“Goodbye, Ashley,” my dad whispers as he closes the door to my new L.A. apartment. He’s off to catch his early morning flight back home to Michigan, and as the door click shuts, I realize that I am a two thousand miles from everyone I know, doing the one thing I thought I’d never do – live alone.

“Wow,” I think to myself. “I must really want this.” This being living in L.A., working as an actor, and one day, becoming a star.

I was twenty-two, and everything felt possible.

This one's for the dreamers... I believer we are all dreamers. The beauty of life is that all of the good things and all of the bad have led to who you are in this moment.

It didn’t matter that I didn’t have friends yet or even a car. I only had one job booked and no idea when my next job would be. But, there were palm trees outside my window, skyscrapers gleaming in the sunlight, and the salty smell of the ocean with just a hint gasoline.

Ten-ish years ago, I found myself doing a lot of firsts…

My first apartment on my own.

My first car.

My first car accident.

My first paid acting job.

My first time on a movie set.

My first celebrity encounter.

My first In-N-Out burger.

Some firsts were more important than others, but there are still days I crave anย In-N-Out burger.

I no longer live in L.A. When I look outside my windows, I see pine trees, and the tallest buildings do not scrape the sky. But, I still dream.

Ten-ish years ago, I discovered that dreams aren’t always easy. Life rarely goes as planned. Priorities change and you face choices you never thought you’d have to make.

I believe we are all dreamers, but I think that as we grow older, we learn that dreaming can be scary. What if you fail? What if everyone laughs at you? What if you lose everything?

We all have dreams that didn’t come true. We all have choices we wish we could go back and change. But, the beauty of life is that all of the good things and all of the bad have led to who you are in this moment. And, if you don’t like who you are, there is time to change.

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Dream big.

Dream small.

Don’t be afraid to do the work to make your dreams come true.

When I was twenty-two, I moved to L.A. to become a working actor.

Nearly ten years later, I’m still acting.

What’s your dream?

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  1. Tenish years ago, I moved to SF just to.. live in San Francisco! So I’m glad I did it. I had no far dreams beyond just living there, and I’m glad I did it and came back here to have my kids here. My dreams are slowly coming true and new ones are forming!

  2. I think that it is so neat that you took the plunge and you will never regret it and I am sure you learned a lot. I also love that you still act! Dreams are always important!


  3. So beautifully said! I lived in LA a few years ago pursuing my career as a music industry professional and now I’m living in another place but trying to buy a house in my hometown where I grew up because for the first time in my life, I find myself wanting stability and normality vs. big cities and constant moving.

  4. Someday, I too shall taste an In and Out Burger. Dreams are so crucial. I mean, if we don’t have dreams, life is just mortgages and sore hamstrings, and with them, life is extra cheese and January Jones movies.

  5. I absolutely loved reading this post! It’s filled with motivation and inspiration. It can be scary to do something new, but I look at it like this I don’t want to go back and say what if when I had the opportunity to go after my dreams and goals. Great post!

  6. Love your post. It’s always scary to try or do something new, but I think it’s important to try. Love that quote “Because as long as you are living, you should be dreaming”.
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  7. I agree with you, while living, dream! And many of our dreams turn into projects, like yours, and many times too, we see that they were only dreams and it is mature to move on! I loved the post!

  8. Dreaming is an essential part of living, and you have captured great sentiments in your post. A timely reminder for us all…thank you and warm greetings!

  9. Wow, you certainly were brave to do that! I don’t think it’s something I could do, I would be too afraid all the time to live on my own. I applaud you for doing that so young! My dreams are relatively simple. Own a house with Adam, get married, hopefully continue to do well on my blog.

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  10. Your first In-N-Out burger is just as important as your first celebrity encounter. I love that you are still pursuing your dreams, never give up Ashley! I believe in you