Glennon Doyle’s popular memoir, Love Warrior, is being featured in the final year of the university-themed BookSparks Fall Reading Challenge. Chances are you’ve heard a little bit about this Oprah Book Club pick and New York Times bestseller. I admit I was super excited when I opened a package from BookSparks and saw the new paperback just waiting for me to crack it open and start reading.
From the Amazon:
Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out―three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list―her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon found that rock bottom was a familiar place. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life.
Love Warrior is the story of one marriage, but it is also the story of the healing that is possible for any of us when we refuse to settle for good enough and begin to face pain and love head-on. This astonishing memoir reveals how our ideals of masculinity and femininity can make it impossible for a man and a woman to truly know one another—and it captures the beauty that unfolds when one couple commits to unlearning everything they’ve been taught so that they can finally, after thirteen years of marriage, commit to living true—true to themselves and to each other.
My thoughts on Love Warrior…
I gobbled this book up in just a couple of days and marked up pages I wanted to come back later to reflect on. I usually avoid memoirs that discuss gritty and depressing topics, but Glennon turns her painful experiences into something inspiring. Even though our situations are quite different, there were many times when I thought, “Oh, I know how that feels. I’ve been there, too.”
However, I have several reservations about this book. (Spoiler Alert)
Initially, Love Warrior was billed as the story of how a marriage was saved, but Glennon and her husband decided to divorce while the book was in the process of being published. Knowing that Glennon divorced her husband and is now married to a female soccer star made Love Warrior feel like a prequel. How did she go from reconciling with her husband to starting a completely new life? Being the nosy reader that I am, I felt cheated because I know that the whole story hasn’t been told.
While I found Glennon’s talk of love inspiring, I often disagreed with her philosophy. She seems to argue that if something feels good, then it is good for you. If you love something, you should go for it no matter what, and that whatever she wanted in her life God must want for her, too. My life experiences have taught me quite the opposite.
As Glennon seeks to “unbecome”, she decides that she is enough, and by the end of the book has become her true self. And yet, she hasn’t because her life radically changes after the book is published.
In the end, I found this book inspiring but inconsistent. As often as I thought, “Oh, that’s so true,” I, also, thought, “Good for her. Not for me.” Love Warrior gave me a lot to think about. After all, isn’t discussion of beliefs and values even when we don’t agree the point of a book?
This book was sent to me for review and is part of BookSparks Fall Reading Challenge.
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